Choose Wisely

This journey has brought some unbelievable comforting friendships along the way. A few of these have come in the form of lovely grieving woman who have lost a child....most in the past year or two. Through their sharing, I am learning. Grief is a gripping thing to go through. It does not go away. It, sometimes, get tougher before it gets livable. My heart is daily very heavy for these precious women. Our journey's are totally different in the respect that their sweet little ones are now on the lap of Jesus. And these are families I take to my Father everyday. I don't completely understand why God has saw fit to place us along one another paths...but I do love and cherish knowing each one of them. And I feel it such a privilege to be allowed into their grieving hearts.

When talking with them, reading their thoughts & reflecting on everything, I find that we do have some common denominators. We all feel that time seems to change awareness. What I mean by this is that as time goes on, people tend to think everything is getting better. Now, I by no means, would ever compare what I'm going through with the grief of losing a child. Ever. But I have pondered how in our society it pretty much doesn't matter what someone is going through, we tend to let 'time heal' rather than be a part of the healing. Yeah, many get involved with the 'trial' is at it's peak. But as time goes by.....most of us tend to go bye-bye.

Sad, isn't it? At least I think so. I'm really hurting over the fact that I had so many reaching out in the beginning and now I struggle to feel an outreached hand maybe once every couple of days. And seriously, these grieving friends that I mentioned, truly do mean so much to me.....so when I think of how I am 'grieving' the absence of support....I can't even imagine how their hearts are hurting over grieving through the ultimate grief as support slips away.

So what do you do? What do I do? WHAT do any of us do?

I don't know. You tell me. I'm just struggling to survive my day to day with the desire to do so much more for those who are hurting around me. I keep thinking that we all have the same 24 hours in a day. Maybe we just need to refresh how we're spending it. Not filling up our days with too much 'junk'. Rather, we need to prioritize and plan. I may only be able to find an extra 15 minutes...but it's what I do with that time that's, maybe, the most important 15 minutes of a friends day. Kinda like a 'pay it forward' sort of thing. Friend helping friend. Hand in hand.

So I plan to choose wisely.

In both.

Time

&

Friends.